A successful career. The body of your dreams. A strong marriage. What do you want? Once you figure out what you want, how do you obtain it? Where and how do you get started, without burning bridges or relationships along the way?
Easier said than done, right? I have a list of 5 things that I want out of my life, listed in order of priority that I want to share along with my plans on making each of my things happen and hurdles that I constantly face. It’s all apart of the game and I’ve been loving the ride thus far.
- Successful Career
- Strong Marriage
- Health. Mental & Physical
- Financial Freedom
That’s it. These are my life goals. Of course, there is SO much that each of these holds for me and simply laying these out doesn’t account for all the smaller milestones that I’ll reach when pursuing my life goals.
Let’s get into it.
I’m in the Human Resource industry and am passionate about providing the best employee experience for everyone that I hire/work with. I am a strong believer that a companies employees are their best assets and regardless of the service they are providing, without those employees; you will not make it very far. I have been in my current role for over 3 years now, and I am constantly learning more about business administration, HR & what it takes to actually run a successful company. Do I want to work at my current company forever, hell no! While I am currently successful and comfortable, this is not my end goal. I have lots of aspirations up my sleeves for my next move and eventually, my “successful career” will look so much different than it does now. For now, to get to where I want to be, I need to continue to be engaged, work hard, and absorb as much information as I can.
Marriage. This shit’s hard. I recently read an article on how a strong marriage is not always rainbows and butterflies and it couldn’t have resonated with me more. I always had the idea of a perfect marriage, and let me be the first to tell you, my idea was far from the truth. I’ve come to learn, you don’t need the rainbows and butterflies to have a strong marriage. You need the fights, the struggle, the growth that comes with dedicating your life to being with a person. I’ve been with my partner since I was 18 years old. I had no idea that when we started dating he was going to turn into my soul mate. My partner is such a team player. We don’t have roles. He doesn’t do the heavy lifting just because he is a man, and I’m not the only one to do laundry because I’m a woman. It takes teamwork and a lot of it. We argue, and that’s okay. We argue because we love each other and want to understand one another. We grow together and will continue to grow until a higher power decides its time for us to leave this earth.
Health. Mental & Physical
In the past year, this has moved up my list from the bottom. I’ve always been slim and never had a problem with my weight. I always thought because I was skinny, I was healthy. I would eat whatever I want without repercussion. In the past year, my definition of ‘healthy’ has changed substantially. I began practicing yoga daily, meditating & tracking what I put into my body and the effects it has. Being healthy DOES NOT mean being skinny. For me, being healthy means being happy. Happy with the way I look, inside and out. Happy with the foods I put into my body (McDonald’s will never make me happy regardless of how tasty I think that burger is) It sucks having body image issues because of the society of today. My mental health has been on a rollercoaster ride because of my body image and it will continue to be a rollercoaster ride for the rest of my life. By continuing to be conscious and self-aware I will continue to build up my mental and physical health to the place I want to be. I won’t get there by sitting on the couch every night, nor will I get there by continuing to eat foods that I have negative reactions to. This may be the biggest hurdle I face in my life.
This is another one I’ve struggled with. Straight out of high school, I took out a bunch of student loans to help me through college. I later dropped out of college, leaving me with tens of thousands of dollars in loans that did nothing for me in school. I opened up a bunch of credit cards, maxed them out, then started down the spiral of never-ending debt. I love to shop. When I see an available credit on my credit cards, I see new clothing, vacations & concert tickets. What I want is to be free from living paycheck to paycheck. I have made huge strides in the past few years, with the help of my wonderful money smart husband. We paid off my car loan, consolidated my student loans & came up with a plan to get my credit cards manageable. I have become more financially free to afford the lifestyle I want, but there is still so much room for improvement. By the end of 2018, I want to be debt free (aside from my mortgage.) To get there, I will not be going out as much, buying the latest trendy outfits or traveling as much as I have in the past. Its all about give and take for me. Giving up new outfits and fancy vacations and take the personal satisfaction of having a savings account WITH MONEY IN IT without thousands of dollars of debt and unpaid interest! One day…
This one should be at the top of my list. However, without everything else coming together first, I know that I cannot start a family of my own that I can support 100%. Without a successful career and financial freedom, how am I going to support my family? Without my mental and physical health, how am I going to keep up with a growing child? Thinking about teenage years scare the crap out of me! Without a strong marriage, how can we raise a child in a non-toxic environment without possibly affecting that child negatively for the rest of its life? Family means the world to me. I moved away from my family immediately after graduating high school. I see them a handful of times a year, thankfully, but it’s not enough. I need the community that family brings. I call my parents at least 10x a week, just to talk. I want to be able to drive over to my parent’s house for coffee and Sunday dinners. I want to start a family of my own, that I can build traditions with. My husband’s little sister is going to college here in Denver in the fall, and I cannot express enough how excited I am! His sister and I are amazingly close and have a lot of the same interests. Having someone other than a friend in Denver will be a game changer for me. It will help to fill a void I have about starting my own family and bringing children into this world until we are both ready and able to conceive. Once that day comes, who knows, maybe we will move back to Minnesota to be closer to our families. Maybe our families will move to Colorado. To get to where I want to be, I will continue to make smart life choices and decisions that will better my family for many years to come.
It really is an art. Getting everything you want out of life. Its an art that takes a lot of time to perfect, and even then, like I said, there is always room for improvement. My life will never be perfect, but so long as I keep working hard every single day. My life can and will be good, it will be great & I will love it.
The best is always yet to come.